Calm & Confident You
Episodes
74 episodes
#24 When a Therapist Feels Angst
In this episode, I talk about my difficulty making some decisions over a few days and my analysis of the underlying contributing factors such as anxiety, second guessing, and feeling pressure.
#23 Keep it going! You've got this!
In this episode, I review the Maintenance stage of change in which a person continues their new healthy habits and can turn their attention to other areas of their life.The stages of change:PrecontemplationContemplationPreparati...
#22 All Encompassing Action!
In this episode, I review the Action stage of change in which a person commits to changing and does everything they can to make it happen.Last episode was about the Preparation stage.PrecontemplationContemplationPreparation<...
#21 Get ready!
In this episode, I review the Preparation stage of change in which a person learns what it takes and identifies steps.Last episode was about the Contemplation stage.PrecontemplationContemplation Preparation Act...
#20 "I Probably Should, but I Don't Want To."
In this episode, I review the Contemplation stage of change in which a person feels ambivalence.Last episode was about the Precontemplation stage.PrecontemplationContemplation PreparationBook: 'Changing for Good'...
#19 "Everything is Fine. I Don't Have a Problem!"
In this episode, I introduce the stages of change concept and talk about the stage of pre-contemplation.Book: "Changing for Good" by Prochaska and Diclemente
#18 Pursue Quality Life Experiences
In this episode, I discuss what a quality life is and how to desire and pursue quality life experiences.“And at the end of the day, your feet should be dirty, your hair messy and your eyes sparkling.” - Shanti
#17 Have an Opinion or One Will Be Given to You
In this episode, I talk about the importance of knowing and giving your opinion. This relates to assertiveness which has to do with having equality in relationships.Regarding the definition of assertiveness that I mention, see the book,...
#16 Can You Face Personal Growth?
In this episode, I explain what personal growth is and I describe what goes into working on personal growth.
#15 Do you even know how you feel?
In this episode, I talk about the importance and the purpose of emotions. I cover recognizing emotions, managing emotions, expressing emotions, and the impact on us physically and in relationship with others.
#14 Benefits of Valuing Yourself
In this episode, I discuss self-worth and how valuing yourself leads to good for you and for others. Valuing your own self-worth has nothing to do with being narcissistic but instead, it leads to personal growth and improvement.If you w...
#13 How to Stop Your Thinking so that You Can Enjoy a Moment
In this episode, I discuss how you can develop the skill to focus your attention so that you can more fully enjoy your life.
#12 Do You Have a Dysfunctional Relationship with 'Yes' and 'No?"
In this episode I explain how being able to use the words 'yes' and 'no' helps you to move forward living life the way you want without being pushed around by others' moods and wants.Su...
#11 Thoughts of Past and Future Are Disruptors
In this episode, I talk about how our past experiences and the learning we carry forward into similar new situations can cause us to misinterpret and react in ways that don't fit the situation. Also, our thoughts of future outcomes can result i...
#10 Are You Open-Minded?
In this episode, I discuss what it means to be open-minded and how it is a benefit to you when you do it.
#9 Take Care of Your Brain
In this episode, I discuss the relationship of brain function to mood. I explain what the brain needs to function well and what you can do to support it and to help your own mood.
#8 Become the Best You that You Can Be
In this episode, I discuss the topic of self-actualization and how it underlies my approach to counseling. I give some guidelines for developing this quality.Read the show notes as a blog post here:
#7 Adjust Thinking, Moderate Feeling
In this episode, I introduce the CBT Triangle which represents the relationship of thoughts to feelings to actions and I explain how adjusting your thinking can help you to manage your emotions.Read the show notes on the Growing Emotion...
#6 Embrace Hope and Desire
In this episode, I discuss why hope and desire are fundamental to motivation and to fully living life.See and read a written version here.
#5 You Can Relax
I describe the changes the body goes through when it relaxes, the benefits of relaxation, and why you should and how you can make it a regular part of your life.Read the show notes for this episode
#4 Emergency! The Fight or Flight Response
I explain what the body's emergency response entails, its healthy function and purpose, and how the body is harmed by a dysfunctional, chronically on, emergency response system.See www.ldonreed.comLucretia is the founder of the Get ...
#3 Curiosity Gives You a Kick
I explain how curiosity is linked to learning and memory and that your brain rewards curiosity.See www.ldonreed.comLucretia is the founder of the Get on Top of Your Emotions System